To Love or Not to Love-- THAT is the Question

Okay, Okay, The title sounds a little weird, right, Ladies? Love, love, love! It's always our first choice. Right?!

Maybe. But are we looking at this loaded question from all the right angles? Let's set it in the middle of the table, step back a few paces and REALLY look at this thing.

So.

We've been distant the past few days. We seem to argue incessantly. We can't agree on anything We've been short-tempered. We don't talk like we should. Things don't look good.

What's wrong with us? Is it even worth it? Maybe we Should just give up. Walk away Forget it all......

(wait, what??!!!)

We made a vow. Not just before witnesses, but before God and man. Most importantly -- God.

Has HE ever broken His promises? No never. He's God and God cannot lie. What about you?

Everyday, we have to make a choice. To love or not to love. Yes, my dear... You don't simply "fall out of love."
Was it sheer happenstance that you "fell into love" with your honey-boo-boo? No. You were first physically attracted to him. Perhaps it was his winning smile, his laughter, his personality... Something clicked in your pretty little head that said "I want to know this man! However your story unfolds, Whatever threads used to create the beautiful patterns in your life tapestry, regardless if the concept blows your mind... Love is a choice (Even now, I'm laughing, cause auto-correct changed my sentence to say "Love is a CHORE!")!

Carefully think back to your wedding day.
When You woke up that Beautiful morning did you say to yourself "Man! Today is the day I have to sign my life away." No!
More than likely, you were beside yourself with joy at the mere thought that in a matter of hours you would be forever and always, from this day forward, known as "Mrs. Right".
Mrs. WHO? Who changed honey-boo-boo's name in our head? Why little Miss High-on-Endorphins, of course! We call it "love", but at this point, its us making a conscience decision to marry and vow to love this man, care for this man, better or worse, in sickness and health, maturity and not-so-mature moments!

"Love grows, develops over time"... just on its own?? Tell me, does a child grow and develop from birth without someone making a conscience decision to help develop it? ABSOLUTELY NOT. Its the same with love. You GET to wake up every morning and make a choice... the same as living for God. We are our own person! That's what makes our unalienable right SO awesome! We have the RIGHT to life, LIBERTY and the pursuit of HAPPINESS! We have the ability to decide for our self-- Am I going to be all that God desires me to be today? What about honey-boo-boo? Am I choosing to love him today? You do realize Happiness is from 'happenstance'. We have to CHOOSE what emotion we dwell on. We're seriously living a 'choose your own adventure' book. You have the CHOICE, regardless of your CIRCUMSTANCES what you're going to make of your life.

It sounds insane. I know. But walk with me around the table. From one angle you may have Mr who's who vying for your attention. Its your choice to entertain that, or CHOOSE to love your husband! From another angle you have all life's issues screaming at you that you could be 'free from it all', or CHOOSE to love your husband! From another angle, maybe you're REALLY dissatisfied with yourself, and you think walking away from family is the best way to figure yourself out ((say what?! Like THAT makes a lot of sense????), or you can CHOOSE to love your husband, confide in him, and let him pray with you through your personal problems! From another angle, maybe its the empty-nest syndrome settling in and years of focusing solely on the kids has alienated you and honey and you find yourself living with an honest stranger.... or you can CHOOSE to love your husband TODAY and take time for your husband TODAY!

Forget the yesterdays, you can't do anything about them. Move on from how things were in yesteryear. Rediscover each other today. Fall in love TODAY. Discover in each other what it is you CHOOSE to love and forgive the rest. 😃

So. To love, or not to love. THAT, my dearies, is the question.

How Much Do You Love Your Spouse?

How many of you agree that Marriage is work? It's HAAAAAAARD work. ;)

So.. the question...

• How much do you love your spouse?
• Do you love them more than you love being right?
• Do you love them more than having to have the last word?
• Do you love them more than YOUR daily plans?

Marriage is all about compromise. So many people are scared of that word! A marriage has to have it to survive.

• If you're the type that keeps to yourself, not very talkative... compromise! Ask your spouse about their day. Communicate!
• If your spouse's Love language is words of affirmation and you have a hard time complimenting... compromise! Be sure to reassure your spouse of your faith in them.
• If your spouse's Love language is acts of service and you really aren't into housework... compromise! Be sure to do something for your spouse that would scream "SEE HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU?!"
• If your spouse's Love language is quality time and you have a jammed packed schedule... compromise! Plan some alone time with your honey (or the entire family - away from TV's and distractions and actually ENJOY one another!)
• If your spouse's Love language is physical touch and you aren't the touchy-feely type... compromise! HUG! KISS! Wrap your arm around them! Hold hands!
• If your spouse's Love language is receiving gifts and you aren't a big shopper... compromise! Pick your honey up something "just because". It doesn't have to be something big, just something that says "I was thinking about you, darling, and I love you."

If you don't know your spouses love language, I encourage you to research it. If you haven't read the book, you can find descriptions and even a quiz online available at:http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/

Do you love your spouse enough to LEARN THEIR LANGUAGE.... and SPEAK IT FLUENTLY?

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